Love is economics too. There is a supply of emotion because there is a demand for it. Irregularities between the supply and demand of emotion create a commotion. The demand should only meet the supply. Venturing into an amorous relationship involves investment of time, effort, energy, body and life. Therefore, there should be equitability between partners. If you settle for anything less, then that is tantamount to doing a great disservice to yourself. That is not love.
When you are down and out, alone and lonely, do not go to the one you love. Instead go to the one who loves you. Go to the right places where good people congregate. There is more to life after separating from the guy/girl you idolized and whom you gave your all. Don't blame yourself for giving your all because that means you can retrieve it again at a hundred percent basis. Don't hide crying. It's alright to cry because you get hurt. Tears cleanses the soul and purifies the spirit. But never run around like a headless chicken. Do not give the person who hurt you have the opportunity and satisfaction to see you suffer. You will not authentically love someone unless you authentically love yourself. If we go by the rule of authentically, there's no love loss. This is because at the end of the equation, you will find yourself -scathed but fighting, bruised but still waging a conscious sure-win battle of conquering your own fears, weakness and loneliness.
If you are the aggrieved party, part of moving on - though it may come later on the process is - forgiving the person who hurt you. Forgiveness and coming back are two different things. You can forgive him but that does not mean you have to come back to each others arms again.
On the other hand, if you have aggrieved someone, learn how to apologize. Those who do not know how to say Ï am sorry, are insulting our capacity to forgive.
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