BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND dr. paul hauck

DON'T feel hurt.
When you put yourself out greatly for someone and the favor was never returned just be happy that you have done a good deed. Sometimes too much expectations can be the culprit of our being hurt.

SHOW compassion, not pity.
To feel concern for another person's suffering is the mark of civility. When unfortunate things happened to those whom you are concerned of, there's is always a great tendency that you cannot help but become unhappy. However, this kind of feeling would lead you to depression. To be kind to yourself, just be aware that there are things or situations in this world that are beyond our control.

CONTROL your anger.
You have to bear in mind that it is you who create your own anger. You talk yourself into it and it is up to you to talk out of it. Anger starts by your wanting,wishing and desiring something. Before you explode you have to learn how to keep your mouth shut. Think over clearly and ask yourself why you should be angry. Raising your voice or escalating your temper would not help the situation, instead it would add ember to the fire. Keep yourself cool for a little while before you settle the situation at hand. Deep breathing can help.

OVERCOME your fears.
There are irrational ideas that create fear, especially if you have nothing to do. Remember that an idle mind is the workshop of the devil. The more you think of an idea that makes you fearful, the more you think of an idea that makes you fearful, the more it becomes stronger. So whenever something fearful is bothering you, do something or get out of the house. If not, talk with a trusted friend. But most of all, there's nothing like unloading your fears to the Lord.